Where do I fit in?

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Angelica Christina Lopez, when skimming through a list of names, one would think, WOW, now that’s a typical tongue-rolling Mexican name. But once that name is placed with the individual another thought comes into play, a more confused, “is she mixed or not” thought races one’s mind. My name is Angelica Christina Lopez, I consider myself a Mexican American, but when asked “what part of Mexico are you from”, I hesitate. Both grandmothers and one grandfather were born in a small Texas town called Uvalde; I pronounce it “YouValdee”, not “OOvalde”. Granted it could be considered a border town, but that’s beside the point. My parents were born and raised there as well. Growing up I had this long Latino name that seemed to be the only thing I could pronounce in the language I was supposed to be speaking. For the sake of better job opportunities, my parents moved to Houston where the culture shock hit them and my home began.

Houston is a melting pot of various races and ethnicities. If I were to have grown up in Uvalde I would have had two types of friends, White and Hispanic. Instead my first best friend was an African American girl named Desiree. We were three and both very unaware of each other’s skin tones. Coming from a small TX town, Houston became too dangerous for my parents, and they decided to move to Rosenberg. I never saw Desiree again. At the age of five I had two new best friends, a black boy named Terrance and a white boy name Cuyler; we always had a blast. It wasn’t until Junior High that I noticed how different we all were. As we get into our teen years, school is no longer a place where we all play together, work together, learn together; instead, clicks are formed, social pressures are enhanced and fitting in is all that matters. In my school there were various “clicks”, I couldn’t really say I fell into one specifically because from what I was told, I wasn’t “Mexican” enough, I wasn’t “White” enough, I wasn’t “hood” enough, I wasn’t “preppy” enough, and so on. Where did I fit in? One would think coming from a family of Mexican descent I would have had the cultural characteristics instilled in me. Was it laziness on my part or was it a new cultural barrier that had developed amongst “my kind”?

High school was when I struggled to place myself into one category. At this point my best friends were all Latino, but I still managed to have ties and friendships with various individuals in various “clicks”. I found myself grasping and appreciating my culture more and more. Participating and attending all the traditional customs my culture is known for I began to find my place. While reading about the Latino movement in history class one day the term “Chicano” was introduced into my vocabulary. “Chicano” was a term originally used by, and reference to U.S. citizens of Mexican descent. FINALLY, I had found a way to describe who I was, what sub category I belonged to, what “click” I could be placed in. It’s amazing how different one specific culture can have so many variations and dynamics. I have come to the realization that there is no need to feel so lost, but rather embrace the fact that I can consider myself an American who is 4th generation Mexican. When asked “what part of Mexico are you from?”, I no longer hesitate, but explain who I am as an individual. I now know exactly where I fit in…I’m a member of a melting pot of groups, and have assimilated to the customs and traditions of various cultures as well as my own roots. The need and desire of having a permanent cultural identity has slowly diminished.

The opinions expressed in this commentary are solely those of Angelica Lopez.

Angelica is a fighter for keeping family bonds and pursuing the “American Dream”. Born in Houston, but raised in Rosenberg, TX, she graduated from Texas A&M University and moved to San Antonio to pursue a career. Sticking to what she does best, she has pursued a career in public relations, where getting in the mix and meeting diverse crowds are only at her finger tips.


7 Responses to Where do I fit in?

  1. Big Tex

    That sucks when you get generalized without people know who you are or where you come from. I hate it when people make assumptions like that. This country has changed in so many ways, and you are proof of what this country is going through. We are changing the face of America as well as becoming a new form of ethnicity, not one of countries or borders, but of a mixture of cultures and colors. Thank you for this very interesting column.

  2. Chicana

    Very interesting… I too have struggled in my youth with generalizations and questioning of the authenticity of my ethnicity. I am glad to know that so many of us are coming to the realization that we are the new American ethnicity. Muchas Gracias!

  3. MoniqueC

    It’s very refreshing to hear a story so similar to my own. Even though my father is a Mexican immigrant and I have always spoken Spanish fluently, I had the same problem as being categorized as “too white” for the other Mexican American kids at school because I didn’t dress or speak a certain way. While I don’t necessarily like the term “Chicano” because of its overly politicized connotation, I can respect that you feel like you’ve found your place after not knowing for so long. Thank you for sharing your story.

  4. 4 ours in SA

    Well written column on what I believe pinpoints what recent Mexican/American generations have endured while growing up here in the U.S. I can relate to alot of the things you endured while growing up and I know many family and friends that went through the same. However, I believe this is what will make us stronger and help us teach generations to come the true value of what it means to be proud of our heritage.

  5. Xavier

    Great piece. Very honest and insightful. Thanks for sharing.

  6. Richie

    I would have to agree with Miss Lopez. Unfortunetly we have to all be placed into a category. You would think by 2010 race/ethnicity or even sexual preference wouldn’t create a barrier which divides people into social clicks. Sometimes we need to put our differences aside and not let them control who we associate with. By not doing this we may loose out on possible friends who can impact our lives in a positive way. All I can say is an open mind is the way to go.

  7. Michael B. Maine

    Great job Angelica. You bring up a very valid concern here and share similar experiences with many people such as myself, who don’t succumb to the stereotypes of who we are “supposed” to be. Stay true to who you are. The cool thing is that those who can see beyond racial and ethnic constructs can thrive in your circle.

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