For the People: Fair Play.

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My wife and I took our 6-year-old boy trick-or-treating the other night, and while we were out, I saw a group of non-costumed teenage boys going door-to-door.  Whenever I saw a group like this as a child on Halloween it terrified me.  I was convinced that they would use their physical strength or their strength of numbers (or, most likely, both) to relieve me of my candy so they would have more for themselves.

That never happened.  Although I’m sure it happened to someone somewhere, and probably more than once, the scourge of Halloween hijacking was probably a threat manufactured by my fears and my imagination more than anything else.

Think back to when you were a little kid.

Were you ever the victim of bag-snatching?  Did you ever have a problem with a bully stealing your lunch money?  Were you pushed down and laughed at, and no one bothered to help you up?

Did you witness kids that won by cheating?  Did you feel slighted because you did all of the work in a group project while three other kids did nothing, but got the same grade you did?  Did you feel embarrassed and left out when two kids would have something in common that you didn’t, like, say, a mutual hobby or the ability to speak Spanish?

Were you an only child?

If you’re a Republican, I’m sure the answer to at least one of these is “yes”.

Ok, I took the long way around to that punchline, and yes, I’m joking.  Kind of.

It dawned on me recently that the people I know who lean politically right have some event in their past that they haven’t been able to get completely beyond.  At least one.  And invariably, at that event’s heart is a notion of corrupted fair-play.  I know more than one person with child-support problems.  I know someone who was mugged, probably because of his race.  I’ve known several people that had little but watched their parents indulge.  I’ve seen smart, hard-working students quit college for financial reasons while less enthusiastic students enjoy a free ride. Each of these individuals felt that something was taken from them that should not have been, and every one of these people has identified themselves as Republican.  Unfortunately, it seems their political affiliation was primarily formed by their perceived loss, and/or someone else’s undeserved gain.

Are these people justifiably upset?  Maybe.  Do I mean to say that having adversity in your life creates conservative tendencies?  Absolutely not. I never had my Halloween candy stolen, but I could answer “yes” to several of the questions I listed above.  I had bad things happen to me, and often no one stepped up to be on my side.  On the other hand, I can clearly remember being in the 4th grade and making a permanent enemy by stopping Ryan Anderson from pushing John White.  John was a new kid and Ryan was bigger than both of us, but while most of the other kids laughed as Ryan pushed, I didn’t find it funny.  So I pushed Ryan.  At some point before the age of 10 my parents taught me that if I saw something happening to someone else, and it wasn’t right, doing nothing about it was wrong.  I still believe that to be true, and if my help is needed or asked for, I’ll do my best to give it.

I realize that generosity is sometimes abused.  If I give a guy on the street a dollar, he might use it for drugs or alcohol instead of the food or bus fare that he says he needs.  Or he might use it for food and bus fare.  I don’t know.  I simply accept that the dollar means more to him than it does to me.  Likewise, if the government asks me to contribute money that will be used by people in need, I don’t have a problem with that.  I don’t worry about all of the things I’ve seen in my life that indicate people are untrustworthy, me-first liars with a tendency to take advantage whenever possible.  I think about John White.

It might be said that standing up for John was futile.  I couldn’t have beaten up Ryan Anderson.  John wasn’t asking for my help or for anyone else’s that day, but I know he appreciated the gesture.  For one thing, he didn’t get pushed any more.  For another, we were friends for several years after.

I’m sorry that I couldn’t have also been there for my Republican friends when they had their moment of need.  But If they needed me now, I’d be happy to help.

Maybe if I did, I could convince them to share their bags of candy.

The opinions expressed in this commentary are solely those of Jake Negovan.

Jake Negovan strives to shine a light on truth and hypocrisy when the mainstream media overlooks those small details. “…For the People,” Jake’s column, is his platform to address the issues that our country faces as we continue growing toward a society of equality, as well as to provide him a place to tell you that he’s always right.


1 Response to For the People: Fair Play.

  1. Javier Gonzalez

    Good story, John White will always remember the good deed. That changes people.

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